Q: If you tell a trusted adult and they don’t do anything about it what should you do?
A: If they haven’t done anything, it would be good to talk to *another trusted adult, and if you still feel comfortable to check-in back with the first-adult and let them know it’s something still weighing on your conscience, check-in with a different trusted adult.
Q: Why do people tease [me] about having friends who are boys…?
A: It’s important to think about those who you are close with and how you treat each other and make each other feel, regardless of gender. Along with that, it is also important to consider that good friends do not purposefully make you uncomfortable based on who you associate with.
In decades past, the norm was to only associate on a regular basis with those of the same gender that you identify as or was assigned, but today we find ourselves in a transitional era in which it is more important to have good friends.
You are valid no matter who you hangout with.
Q: Are the boys and girls going to be separated for the learning of the reproductive systems?
A: No, everyone will be together to learn about both reproductive systems.
Q: Why do the girls have to learn about the boys?
A: It’s important for us to know medically accurate information about both male and female reproductive anatomy because many people, throughout their lives, will have relationships with people that have different reproductive anatomy. It’s always good to be informed!
Q: How do I know when my period is going to come?
A: Sometimes it can be really sudden with little to no warning, especially if it is your first period. Some people may have cramping for a day to a week or so before. Over time you’ll be able to have a better idea of what the build up looks like. Common premenstrual syndrome symptoms include mood swings, more acne, cramping and/or headaches, and others may feel more bloated or sore. These can be dealt with through taking a bath, having a hot pad, drinking some warm tea, and mostly practicing self care.
Q: When will we start talking about the reproductive system?
A: Today! And last week.
Q: Will we learn about different sexual orientations?
A: Yes, we are doing a gender and sexuality lesson at the end of our time here.
Q: What is the difference between Queer and Gay and Lesbian?
A: Queer is an umbrella term for someone who is not heterosexual/cisgendered. It has also been used as a slur for a long time, so it still makes some people uncomfortable and it’s important to ask someone before using it to refer to them. Gay refers to someone who is attracted to the same gender, and lesbian refers to a woman who is solely attracted to other women. We will talk more about this during the gender and sexuality lesson as well.
Q: What does queer mean?
A: Queer is an umbrella term for someone who is not hetrosexual/cisgendered. It was used as a slur for a long time, and is still makes some people uncomfortable. Always ask someone before using it.
Q: Why does it matter about your sexuality?
A: Many people see their sexuality as a defining character trait and a way to find community. Since many people with LGB+ identities can be left out or rejected by our general society, many people find a lot of comfort in meeting similar people.
That being said, someone’s sexuality should not matter when it comes to showing respect.
Q: What are ways to show your sexuality without telling people?
A: You can do things like wear pride pins or stickers. There are lots of prints for clothing and other accessories that can convey your orientation without you having to announce it.
This can backfire in some ways however, as some people might get stuck on the idea that you’re just a really passionate ally.
Q: How many different sexualities are there?
A: There is no set number of how many sexualities there are! People are constantly updating language to be able to describe themselves and how they feel. If labels aren’t your style, then there is no pressure to use one. The most important thing is to respect people’s choices and how they identify.
Q: What is a “TITTEE” ?
A: I’m assuming you mean “titty”, a slang term for a breast.
Q: How do you put a penis in a vagina?
For vaginal intercourse, the erect penis is inserted slowly in the vaginal opening.
A: Being patient is a good way to start. Foreplay is really important because it gives time for the body to become aroused. This is really important for the vagina, as it expands and relaxes as one becomes aroused. The vagina will likely start producing some of its own lubricant, but it’s good to use more since this help make sex more pleasurable and less painful. When putting the erect penis inside the vagina, go slowly and keep checking in with your partner. Communication is the most important!
If entry sex (penis into vagina/anus) doesn’t sound appealing then that’s fine! There are different ways to have sex (you can learn more at http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/whats_sex) and if you don’t want sexual contact that’s fine too! Do what you feel comfortable with.
And don’t forget to use protection and get tested.
Q: Why do people say that sex is “pleasurable”?
A: People say that sex is pleasurable because, for many, having sex releases hormones called endorphins and dopamine which create feelings of pleasure, similar to eating chocolate. Also, sex is often a way that people share their love and affection for each other.
Q: What is 69?
A: 69 is the name a sex position where two people engage in oral sex. It is called that because the two numbers are said to look like people.
Q: What do you do if someone you know tells you they are depressed?
A: If someone tells you that they are depressed, it’s most important to be there for them as a friend and make sure that they have the resources they need. If you’re worried about their safety, you can contact a trusted adult, like a teacher, parent, or the school counselor
Q: Is it easy getting a girlfriend?
A: Everyone enters relationships at a different pace and some may find it more difficult or natural to start dating.
Q: Why do people make weird noises and moaning sounds?
A: It’s commonly thought that moaning is a way of expressing pleasure during sex, but this is different for everyone. Some people do it to communicate with their partner that they are enjoying what’s going on. However some people are quiet because that feels better for them. It depends on what you feel like. As long as all parties are giving an enthusiastic yes for consent, the way you express enjoyment is up to you.
Q: Why is the sky blue?
A: A clear cloudless day-time sky is blue because molecules in the air scatter bluelight from the sun more than they scatter red light. When we look towards the sun at sunset, we see red and orange colours because the blue light has been scattered out and away from the line of sight. Basically the light wavelength for blue is the one that reaches our eyes during the day.
Q: How does an abortion work?
A: An abortion is a legal procedure that a person might undergo to terminate a pregnancy. There are two different types, on that uses medicine and one that uses surgery. We recommend https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion to get more information on each.
““Abortion pill” is the popular name for using two different medicines to end a pregnancy: mifepristone and misoprostol. You’ll also get some antibiotics. This medicine causes cramping and bleeding to empty the uterus. It’s kind of like having a really heavy, crampy period, and the process is very similar to an early miscarriage. This is an option up to 70 days after a person’s last period.“
“There are a couple of kinds of in-clinic abortion procedures. Your doctor or nurse will know which type is right for you, depending on how far you are into your pregnancy. Suction abortion (also called vacuum aspiration) is the most common type of in-clinic abortion. It uses gentle suction to empty your uterus. It’s usually used until about 14-16 weeks after your last period.
Dilation and Evacuation (D&E) is another kind of in-clinic abortion procedure. It uses suction and medical tools to empty your uterus. You can get a D&E later in a pregnancy than aspiration abortion — usually if it has been 16 weeks or longer since your last period.”
Q: What if my dog raped me?
A: Jokes about rape aren’t funny. When you joke about this you contribute to normalize rape culture, not caring who in earshot has been abused. One in 9 girls and 1 in 53 boys under the age of 18 experience sexual abuse or assault at the hands of an adult.