Here are our responses to the anonymous questions we received from the 7th grade class. If you don’t see your question or want to know more about something in particular, you can email us or fill out the submit form on the homepage!
Q: If you have an uncircumcised penis can the skin on the tip pull back?
A: Yes! The foreskin can be gently pulled back for things like cleaning or putting a condom on.
Q: Do you know the earliest age a trans person can start hormones?
A: The best thing to do is talk to your health care provider around this because they will help figure out when is best for your body. Some doctors prefer to wait so that you go through puberty at the same time as your peers.
This also depends on parental consent. You can really start as early as your doctor believes is okay as long as your parents/guardians are on board.
Hormones blockers can also be a good alternative to getting hormones like testosterone and estrogen if your parents/guardians wish to wait. They are completely reversible and can give time to think about the next step while avoiding going through the wrong puberty.
If all else fails you can receive hormone therapy at 18 when you are a legal adult without parental consent.
Q: How many genders are there?
A: There are a lot! And it’s always changing as more people find words to describe their gender experience.
Q: When is the right time (on the female’s period cycle) to conceive a child, or does it matter?
A: According to the National Healthcare Society you’re most likely likely to get pregnant if you have sex within a day or so of ovulation (releasing an egg from the ovary). This is usually about 14 days after the first day of your last period, if your cycle is around 28 days long.
However, this doesn’t mean that this will work, or that other times won’t work.
Q: How fast does a guy spream?
A: I’m going to assume you mean ejaculate, but feel free to shoot us an email if you meant something else! The average amount of time it takes for a man to ejaculate varies immensely. Everyone is different, and may respond differently in different situations. There is no “wrong” length of time, and however long a specific man takes is perfectly normal.
Q: Average penis size for a 12 year old?
A: It is about 2-4 inches when erect (hard), but that is just an average. There is no “wrong” penis size, and many people don’t fit into the given average.
Lesson: Sexual Identity
Q: What does LGBTQ stand for? How can you support someone like the Teen Council does?
A: LGBTQ stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, and queer/questioning. One of the best ways to show support is to listen and research what you are talking about. Speak up at school if you see bullying, and when you get to high school maybe consider joining Teen Council to educate your peers.
Q; What was the name of the video we watched at the beginning of class?
A: It is called ‘Gender and Sexuality Animation’ by Kaleido Quail!
Q: What age can you have babies?
A: Physically, it is possible to have children once a person has started ovulating (producing eggs). However deciding whether or not to have children based on family and personal values, as well as religious.
Q:How many kinds of STD’s are there?
A: The number of STD/STI’s vary depending on what is counted as an STI. The Medical Institute for Sexual Health lists 27 different infections. This includes viral, protozoal (single cell), ectoparasitic, and bacterial.
Q:What does queer mean?
A: Queer is often used as an umbrella term for the entire LGBTQ+ community. This also helps to make sure that the identities that are reduced to a ‘+’ are included (like people who are pansexual or intersex). It can also be used for people trying to include all they identify as in one word or people who don’t have a clear identity to label. It’s important to keep in mind that this is an in-group term, meaning that those not in the community need to ask before using it to refer to people (this is due to it being used as a slur).
Q:What is menopause?
A: Menopause is when a person stops having periods. This generally occurs later in life, between the ages of 45-50, and is linked to a change in hormone production that can make a person experience hot flashes, a decrease in sex drive, and other side effects.
Q: What is the bump on my vagina?
A: The vagina is the muscular tube leading from the external genitals to the cervix of the uterus.
Picture from MamasHealth
If you have been having sex, you may want to talk to a parent or doctor find out if you have an STI such as Genital Herpes or Genital Warts.
However if you are noticing a bump on your skin around your external genitals, it may be acne. This can be dealt with by keeping the area clean, and not irritating it.
You may also be referring the clitoris, an organ which is located at the top of the vulva. It looks like a small button, and responds to stimulation.
Q:What can you do to help a friend that is transgender?
A: A lot of this falls into what you can do to be an ally. Some of the major things are around educating yourself on terms and understanding that people are diverse and transitioning looks different for everyone. Be patient, supportive, and loving. It’s also important to be careful around where you use your friends prefered pronouns/name. Because they may not be out in certain spaces, be careful about what you say. If you want to create a space that includes transgender people, you can try to make that clear up front by stating your pronouns or by just saying that everyone is included no matter what. And like with the rest of life, if you realize that you don’t know something, that’s okay! It’s better to admit you don’t know something then to make an assumption or guess, you can always ask or look it up later.
If you want to know anything else, please feel free to contact us!
Q:If I have sex with a transgender guy am I gay or straight?
A: This is a good question. One thing to do is talk to your transgender partner about it. Sexual orientation often lines up with the gender of the person you are attracted to, if you are a straight girl, dating a transgender guy doesn’t make you lesbian (and being a straight man dating a transgender girl doesn’t make you gay). However, you may also be bisexual, pansexual, or anything else that isn’t gay or straight.
Q:What is mustard bating?
A: I’m going to assume you mean masturbating, but if you mean something else please contact us! Masturbating is the act of a person stymulating their genitals in a way that makes them feel good. Often it is done to achieve orgasm, however not everybody does.
Q: How do you tell what sexuality you are/How do you know you are any of those?
A: Mostly it’s through learning more about yourself! Spending time exploring your sexual identity is completely okay! As you find out about different identities and learn about who you are and who you’re attracted to you can start making decisions on how to identify. Remember that no one gets to choose for you, and that you are not locked into your decisions, just because you identify one way at one time, doesn’t mean that it always has to be that way.
Q:What is an orgy?
A: An orgy is when a group of people get together to have sex.
Q:What are gay orgys?
A: A gay orgy is when a group of people of the same gender get together to have sex. It may also be used as an umbrella term for a group of people with a variety of sexual identities getting together to have sex.
A: Yeah! An asexual person is a person who doesn’t experience sexual attraction to any gender! This doesn’t mean that an asexual (often shortened to ‘Ace’) person doesn’t feel a romantic attraction towards people, or desire a relationship, they just don’t feel a desire towards having sex. Asexual people do sometimes have sex, and if you’re in a relationship with an asexual person it is good to communicate around it to know boundaries.
Q:What would happen in if a guy took birth control?
A: Most birth control pills are made of estrogen and progesterone. If a person with testosterone started taking these pills consistently over time it would lead to larger breasts, less facial hair, a decreased sex drive, and smaller testicles. There is also a small chance of developing prostate cancer.
If you happen to be a transgender person looking to develop these secondary sex characteristics, please talk to a parent/trusted adult and consult a doctor. Taking birth control is not a good idea, and doctors can help with what kinds of hormones to take to achieve what you want.
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